MANILA, Philippines - Though ideally forgiveness knows no time or season, Christmas is the season when hearts are more giving and forgiving.
In the spirit of the season, singer-actress Karylle tearfully recalled on "Kris TV" the "long" and "solo" journey she took before resolving the "distance" she had with Dolphy, who became her mother Zsa Zsa Padilla's long-time partner after splitting with now ex-husband, Dr. Modesto Tatlonghari.
"I specifically remember one breakthrough point for me was when Tito Dolphy got sick and I started praying for him," she related.
Karylle was still young when her parents parted ways in 1987 and Zsa Zsa got into a relationship with Dolphy two years later. It was apparently a dark chapter for the 31-year-old Kapamilya artist, because "no one ever talked to me about it. Not my mom, not my dad..."
Although there had been conversations over the apparently complicated scenario, she said, "It's not, like, [geared] towards healing. Kasi it's a wound..."
What made matters more difficult for Karylle was that "there was just too much press about it."
She noted, however, that "time is our friend." Karylle eventually learned to forgive.
"I did find people along the way who helped me, 'yun nga, family healing... Minsan nagma-mass kami, iiyak ako do'n mag-isa. I think what they say about forgiveness is that it starts in your head. It's a decision that you make and it goes down to your heart. And it takes a long time," she said.
Karylle realized she has "totally forgiven" Dolphy when she was finally able to crack a joke to him.
"Number one, hindi naman ako nagjo-joke, especially at the time. But mag-joke ako sa King of Comedy? I said, 'Lord ito na 'yon, I've reached it, thank you,"' she said, teary-eyed.
Of course, a painful situation not just leaves scars but, more importantly, lessons. Towards the end of her interview, Karylle imparted, "It's something that I feel for other people with broken families na take the journey with your kids."
Dolphy passed away last July after his years-long bout with COPD (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease).