What Kuh Ledesma learned about love and marriage
Tonight, Kuh Ledesma gathers her former colleagues from Music & Magic to bring back memories of their 80s glory days in a Valentine concert set for The Theater at Solaire Resort & Casino in Parañaque.
The fact that it’s been just four months after they mounted their comeback concert in October (17 years after the group disbanded), means all went well with their first. In fact, it was excellently received, says Kuh.
Which is why, in spite of glut of shows that always mark Valentine’s Day, they’ve decided to go ahead and showcase more of what they do best on February 14.
So, in keeping of the day of hearts, we had to ask Kuh’s views on love.
1. True love is pure.
“Why pure? If we truly love someone, hindi natin yan hahayaan na magkasala. You will always put that person in the highest esteem. Ibig sabihin, (you show) yung respect mo sa taong yon.”
2. True love is submissive.
“Ngayon na lang ako natuto yan. Kaya naman nagkaproblema yung marriage ko (with former husband Louie Gonzalez, father to their daughter, the singer Isabella), kasi nauna ako sa Diyos. I did not really pray about the person I was going to marry. Wala lang. Pag na-meet mo yung person, parang ayun na pag nagustuhan mo.
3. True love waits.
“Kailangan mga kabataan maturuan ng kung ano dapat. Kasi when the right person comes along, tapos may boyfriend ka na, nabuntis ka na, na-whatever na, you will lose the opportunity to have God’s best in your life.”
4. Marriage follows God’s will.
“Because I didn’t follow the principles of God, God’s design for a marriage (so my marriage failed)…. And yet I know that when we were together, he was very much in love with me. I was also in love with him. Pero masisira ang union ng dalawang tao pagka hindi natin sinunod ang mga kagustuhan ng Diyos. Ganun lang it’s as simple as that. I wasn’t the submissive wife. Matapang ako.”
5. Marriage is between a man and a woman.
“Book of Romans, Chapter 1, that’s what I think of (gay marriage).” (Verses 26-27: “Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error.”)
But when it comes to her gay friends, she says, “Mahal ko sila! Mahal na mahal. Hindi naman yung lifestyle nila ang mahal ko. That’s why God hates sin, but He loves the sinner. Tayo kasi, sinners tayong lahat. I may not be gay but I have other things that I did in the past na, you know, hindi rin maganda.”
6. Divorce or annulment doesn’t mean shutting out an old love.
“Nung magkahiwalay kaming mag-asawa, inisip ko, ‘Papalitan ko na yan.’ And I fell in love with someone. Pero nararamdaman ko, mabigat ang kamay ng Diyos sa buhay ko. Pinabayaan ko, kasi God is trustworthy. How can we know better than God who knows the future….
“I thought I would not divorce, pero pinayagan ko yung husband ko to divorce me (after he fell in love with someone else). Sa America siya nag-divorce… But nag-agree na ako sa annulment (here in the Philippines)…. Kasi sabi niya, ayaw na niyang bumalik. Pero only God knows, di ba? Hanggang ngayon, hindi pa siya kasal….
“Pero pag nagpakasal ako, parang sinarado ko na ang door sa kanya…. Parang ako ang nagde-decide, hindi ang Lord. Ngayon, pag nagpakasal siya, our Church allows that I can remarry.
“Parang sasabihin mo na, ‘O, para ka naming martir!’ It’s not. Bsides, yung time na naghihintay ako kay Lord na kung ano ang gagawin niya sa buhay ko, I have so much joy, peace. Hindi ko mabibili yon.”
What do you think of Kuh’s views?
The Music of the Heart, The Magic of Love , a concert by Kuh Ledesma with Music & Magic, happens on Valentine’s Day at The Theater in Solaire.
